YOU Version 2.0–New and Improved! Free Upgrade Available–Act Now!

21 Dec
A good friend of mine calls me “Martha 2.0”.  The new and improved version.  She’s seen the old and helped me through the transition, very rough at times, to the new.  There will be a version 3.0.  And a 4.0….. (eat your heart out Apple).  The goal is to keep evaluating, learning, and improving. Find the bugs and problems and fix them.  It’s a lifelong process.  You can upgrade too.  It’s not exactly free (here comes the fine print):  you have to be willing to work for it.

I wish I could explain how clearly I see things now that I’m not drinking.  When I drank, it was like I was looking through a pair of glasses with lenses that were covered with water.   I could still make things out and see them, but they were usually completely distorted, blurry or just messed up. Occasionally, I would manage to wipe them clean and dry them off, but they would just go back to wet and blurry again.   They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.  When an alcoholic thinks that they can pick up a drink, and that “this time will be different”, they are demonstrating behavior that is, in fact, insane.  Every rational, logical and sensible reason why you can’t drink is right there in front of you, but so is the insanity of the disease, trying to drop your glasses in the toilet to get wet again.

I had what I considered a sizable breakthrough this week.  All it takes is for one person to say something that strikes a chord or zaps a part of your brain to turn a lightbulb on.  I wish I remembered exactly what they said, but the main point was that they realized that they had to stop blaming someone or something for their drinking.   The person, thing or issue didn’t CAUSE the drinking.   They were just really good EXCUSES to drink, or to continue drinking.  I don’t believe anyone can maintain sobriety by just stopping drinking.  You have to completely change who you are and address the excuses that lead you drink in the first place, especially your own character defects.   Work out the bugs.  Most importantly, as another wise friend told me, you can’t move on until you are willing to lay down the sword when it’s time.   Letting go of resentments can free up all kinds of memory.

Think about the vicious cycle.  As an alcoholic, the problems you experience lead you to pick up a drink.  The drinking then, in turn, causes more problems.  Things suck more, so you think that drinking will help.   It goes on, usually, until you hit rock bottom.   Not until you identify and accept the behavior as insanity can you begin to work on improvement. How great would it be if there was some Apple app that “cured” you of alcoholism.  One that took away the compulsion to drink.  An app that let you skip the horrible withdrawal and expedite recovery.  An incredible app that fixed everything you screwed up when you drank.  Unfortunately, there isn’t.  The tools at your disposal are the experience and understanding of those who have been through this before you.  Those who have worked hard to achieve and maintain sobriety.   If you are willing to do the work and use these tools, you too can get your upgrade.  Act now.  It’s vital to be plugged in during the process.  Hooking up to your HP (Higher Power) usually works best.   And there’s also a holiday two-for-one special going on now—help someone else up and you will help yourself at the same time.

3 Responses to “YOU Version 2.0–New and Improved! Free Upgrade Available–Act Now!”

  1. Tracy December 22, 2013 at 4:41 am #

    OH MY GOSH…. you are powerful with your ideas and with your writing and you hit it on the target. The idea of seeing things clearly resonates with me…. it’s amazing how hard it is to see the whole picture period- much less with foggy glasses on….. Martha, you are an inspiration to me and to so many. You rock, girl. You seriously do. Funny, smart, dynamic and incredibly powerful…. go go go GO girl.

  2. carrythemessage December 22, 2013 at 5:11 am #

    Awesome post. I think you would like a book called “A New Pair of Glasses” by Chuck C. (Chamberlain) It’s a fantastic read and goes into detail about what you speak of here. (Chuck C was an influential AA member and helped a lot of people and great communicator).

    Anyway, you speak truth about causes and conditions and excuses. Different things. In the end, just the fact that I was breathing was reason enough to drink. All those other things – stress, bad relationships, poor childhood, etc. are just excuses. The ‘ol “if you had my life, you’d drink too” thing. Horsefeathers! We have deeper causes going on, and they all start between the ears. Of course, eventually the physical part kicks in, but the first drink is taken sober…so what is it then that brings us to our first drink? our minds. The thoughts. the mental obsession. Take away booze and we still have those things, so as you so well put it, we have tools to help us deal with the thinking problem.

    I love that 2-for-1 line…so cool and yet so true. It’s amazing how things shift when we start helping and working with others. You are helping others here with your words and insights…keep it up 🙂


  3. Christy M. Witschie December 23, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    Martha, you did it again. An alcoholic with insight is what you are. We all have our different and sordid reasons why we drank. At some time on some given day we decided to pour what my grandmother called, ” the devil juice” down our throats and whether by genes or circumstances we were off to the races from that point on. Each story is as different as the person telling it. Then one day our “HP” puts the idea in our heads that drinking is no longer a part of the life we want to lead. The analogy of purchasing the app to do all the blood, sweat and tears, the DIRTY work so we won’t suffer or have to feel was brilliant. What came to mind were the people that earned their honorary degrees from prestigious Ivy League universities. They had their photos snapped with all the “real” graduates who DID the work to get their coveted diplomas through whatever means it took. The “honoraries” felt really proud. They had been asked to give the commencement speech. But, it was the real graduates that had a sense of pride and respect for themselves as human beings. They followed their dreams and visions. They made it happen. Would I really want an app to do all the work for me? Would I appreciate the sense of pride and respect for myself? I say NO, I would not. In AA, we have to work at it every day. We have to make the choices to keep going strong in our program. It is in doing that that we can help others. I love your blog. You make it so clear, Martha. So clear…

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